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Learning how to read minds

Written by SitterTree
Category Parenting Tips, Parents, Tips for Toddlers
Published on March 22, 2019

The ability to understand what someone else is feeling and thinking represents the pinnacle of a series of developmental steps toward the development of a mature mind.

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In the first few years of life, your primary focus was yourself. You wanted food, warmth, or an engaging toy, and you were willing to cry very loudly to get it. You were unapologetically egocentric. You can hardly blame yourself because you hadnโ€™t developed to a point where you could look past your own needs. Then, at about the age of three or four, you underwent something of a magical transformation. You became a genius at mind reading. Suddenly you were capable of looking past yourself and could take into account the wants, needs, knowledge and mental states of other people. You had developed what some researchers call a theory of mind.

So What?

Theory of mind refers to a personโ€™s ability to create theories about other peopleโ€™s minds – what they might be thinking, how they might be feeling, what they might do next. As individuals, we are able to make these assumptions easily, without even recognizing that we are doing something fundamentally astonishing: that is, making predictions about what is going on in other peopleโ€™s heads. Even more amazingly, these predictions most often prove correct. But as parents and carers, how can we understand whatโ€™s going on in our childโ€™s mind?

Every child experiences a unique journey towards developing a theory of mind. However, an atypical development of the theory of mind can sometimes be associated with certain forms of developmental delay or learning disabilities. Being familiar with the concept of theory of mind and its typical progression throughout infancy and early childhood can help you be on the lookout for potential concerns.

A note about the author:

Dr. Randa Grob-Zakhary, MD Ph.D. is the Founder of The Babyboost Institute for Early Learning and Development. Want more tips?  Purchase Babyboost: 50 Critical Facts on Amazon.

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